I've been thinking a lot about Valentine's Day this year. It's not something we do big in our marriage, but it is remembered and it is fun! Now, I remember when I was younger getting Valentine's from my parents and grandparents and of course, my classmates. And of course, I loved it all. It was a fun day, but what about the rest of the year? Did any of those feelings of love linger? Some did, but it's not like the Christmas spirit that starts in October and lasts halfway through January. This is Valentine's day and most people starting thinking it somewhere between February 1st and 13th and then it's over February 15th.
So, I've found myself wondering this year, what's the point? To put more money in someone else's pockets by buying a hundred little cards for my kids to send out and receive tenfold that will all be recycled? To add inches to my waist by all that incredible chocolate? To do something special for the one I love that I could/should do for him any other day of the year, if I were so inclined? What is it really all about? And do I really need to buy into the commercialism of it? (wow do I sound cynical, sorry)
And then I got this scripture and quote in an email today:
Jacob 3:7 (Book of Mormon)
"Behold, their husbands love their wives, and their wives love their husbands; and their husbands and their wives love their children."
Spencer W. Kimball
"The love of which the Lord speaks is not only physical attraction, but also faith, confidence, understanding, and partnership. It is devotion and companionship, parenthood, common ideals and standards. It is cleanliness of life and sacrifice and unselfishness.
"This kind of love never tires nor wanes. It lives on through sickness and sorrow, through prosperity and privation, through accomplishment and disappointment, through time and eternity. . . . For your love to ripen so gloriously, there must be an increase of confidence and understanding, a frequent and sincere expression of appreciation of each other. There must be a forgetting of self and a constant concern for the other. There must be a focusing of interests and hopes and objectives into a single channel" (The Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, p. 248).
Now that is the type of love worth celebrating.
So in reality, everyday could/should be Valentine's Day. Everyday we should be celebrating and showing the love we have for our family. We should be listening to, doing for and sacrificing for one another every moment of our lives. And yes, there are occasions when it is great (and sometimes needed) to give a little something more, a little something special and maybe that occasion is Valentine's Day and maybe it isn't. However, I think if we truly loved one another as Christ would have us love one another, we wouldn't need chocolate hearts, small cardboard cards, or stuffed animals to let people know we love them or for other's to feel that we love them.
So I end with this scripture and challenge each of us (that includes me) to take it to heart and truly pray for charity, pray to know how to love those around us, pray to have the strength to love those around us, pray to be open to receive love from those around us.
Moroni 7: 45-48 (Book of Mormon)
45 And charity suffereth long, and is kind, and envieth not, and is not puffed up, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil, and rejoiceth not in iniquity but rejoiceth in the truth, beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
46 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, if ye have not charity, ye are nothing, for charity never faileth. Wherefore, cleave unto charity, which is the greatest of all, for all things must fail—
47 But charity is the pure love of Christ, and it endureth forever; and whoso is found possessed of it at the last day, it shall be well with him.
48 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, pray unto the Father with all the energy of heart, that ye may be filled with this love, which he hath bestowed upon all who are true followers of his Son, Jesus Christ; that ye may become the sons of God; that when he shall appear we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is; that we may have this hope; that we may be purified even as he is pure. Amen.
May you all partake of charity, the pure love of Christ, the pure love of your spouses, the pure love of your children during this month of LOVE and throughout your life.